How we care, respect and treat others, and ourselves creates our lifestyle. We all have control of our own lives. Happiness starts with Self-respect. The moment we give up on our own heart, we are not living. The heart starts to suffer and pain takes over. Pain starts to control our choices and decisions where we ultimately find ourselves living in a shadow, where we slowly poison our own heart and leave to die, where pain slowly starts to eat us up alive and drags us down where we can fall into a very deep depression. Once depression takes over, we can start to pretend, cover up our true self, and live a double life just to get by. Pain can become so unbearable that we start to hurt others and ourselves.